I’ve been debating whether or not to post

I’ve been debating whether or not to post these thoughts, but they have been sitting heavily on my heart; so here goes.

Since Matt’s accident I have had such a strong desire to grab, shake, and yell at everyone I know who rides a motorbike “STOP IT! IT’S NOT WORTH IT! It’s not worth the risk, the danger, the pain, the hurt, the sadness, the despair, the grief, the depression, the loneliness, and the loss.”

I know that it is not necessarily the right response to Matt’s tragic accident…but it’s all I’ve got right now. I know that I don’t have the right to tell people what to do, but I wish someone had grabbed Matt and yelled these things at him years ago.

Matt loved riding his bike. I can not deny him that. He has been doing it for years; both for leisure and for transport. And he was good at it; he was great at it actually. I also enjoyed riding with him. I always felt safe on the back of his bike, (especially after I reminded him that I was putting my life in his hands)!

One thing I would like to say though: if you are riding a bike because it is cheaper or simply ‘fun’, I would strongly encourage you to think of your safety. Matt and I justified his riding 100kms to and from work every day because the fuel was cheaper than if he was driving a car. I regret this EVERY day. If possible, please learn from this tragedy.

You can’t put a price on a life.

xx zs



5 thoughts on “I’ve been debating whether or not to post

  1. I totally understand. I see every bike in the city when I drive to work. I’m reminded of him every time I see one. I miss Maffy.

  2. I don’t know you all that well Zoe – I think we’ve only met once…
    I just know my heart breaks for you often and I pray for you.
    I preached on Rev 21-22 on the weekend.
    You will be reunited – and all the pain will be forgotten in an instant. So I’ll pray you get through to that day intact.

  3. Hi Beautiful
    I have been weighing up the same thoughts & it’s good you have your say, particularly for anyone riding just because it’s cheaper because in that case it’s not worth the risk. I only realised after Matthews accident that motorcyclists make up 1% of the road users but 16% of road fatalities in NSW for me those odds are to high. People also need to realise that everytime we get on the road in any fashion we are taking a risk, please be safe & drive safe, xxm

  4. Sis it is a legitimate plea! I am very guilty of perhaps losing my cool at people I don’t even know that well because of what has happened(perhaps my actions have been poor), but you have every right to hold such opinions! I think your opinion is extremely valid!

    Me saying this will make no difference to how you feel- but the choice for matt to ride was made. (I think he had a particularly big voice in that say as well) no amount of grief, pain, regret and depression can change that. I think of the vs, ‘who by worrying can add a single hour to his life…’ I think you can lament and be upset, but holding that burden down on yourself will only break you.

    I think your thought pattern is good! You shared a link a little while ago by a fellow-Robbertson dweller who was reflecting upon Matts death, (even though he didn’t know him), and sis he came to a very similar conclusion about his thoughts of motorbike riding and his previous love and endorsement in such activities.


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